In my experience, it’s about behind where the clit is. If you make your thumb and index/middle finger into the shape of a tuning fork, insert the fingers, you can rub both at the same time. Some women enjoy this, though get permission before you try!
Also, don’t stimulate with your finger tip, as it’s very easy to unintentionally involve your finger nail. Use the pad of your finger, and yes, it’ll be a bit less comfortable for you, but way more comfortable for her. If you automatically switch to easier movements when you get tired, keep your nails trimmed and try to keep the contact closer to the pad than the tip (I know that nothing sucks more than getting your partner close but also getting too tired to keep up the movement to finish her, don’t scratch her in that moment).
Pro tip! Scratch your tongue with your fingernail, if you can feel the ridge, so can she.
Yeah, the closest a male body has to inside a vagina is your gums and the area inside your asshole (at least out of the relatively easy places to reach).
Also, women tend to have skin that isn’t as tough, so something feeling fine on your own skin doesn’t mean she’ll be ok with it. And friction causes wear (including from your tongue), so try to not focus overly on the same areas, take breaks, and use lube. If you aren’t using condoms or toys, oil-based lube is better than water-based lube in that it lasts longer.
Or just be a G and round out the edges of your fingernails daily.
I’m always ready to not scratch the inside of my wife.
Another pro tip, don’t use your index finger. Use your middle finger first, then add your ring finger if necessary. The two fingers are more or less linked together, and it’s much easier to curl them to hit the spot.
Yeah, only reason I said index and middle was because it won’t cramp up as easily as middle and ring, but really you should switch between the two for even better endurance.
as it’s very easy to unintentionally involve your finger nail
I bite my nails so no worries about that.
If you make your thumb and index/middle finger into the shape of a tuning fork,
I don’t think I am imagining this correctly?
Or make a duck bill/shadow puppet mouth. Main thing is to make your fingers and thumb parallel and also line up their ends so you can move your hand and rub the outside and inside of the vaginal wall right where the clit is. Tuning fork was the first thing I thought of looking at my own hand in that position lol.
This???
Yeah, pretty much. Line up the two fingers so they are side by side (also, as another comment mentioned, middle and ring can work better than index and middle, but use both to help with endurance), and move your thumb forward and fingers back to that their tips all line up.
Yeah the middle and ring finger are aligned
It’s more the thumb and fingers that need to be aligned to hit both spots at once.
Oh also, instead of just hammering away at rubbing them, vary your actions. Like move your thumb and fingers as if you’re manipulating a ball, move from side to side, switch to your tongue on the clit for a bit, pull your fingers out and rub her whole labia with your palm, alternatively tease and satisfy, have your other hand roam her body (and not just the fun parts, but arms, shoulders, legs, neck, head, belly, back, sides, hands). Try to think of all the ways you can show physical affection and do them (just don’t race through the list, it’s about having a variety of behaviours to keep things interesting, not checking things off a list).
Op says they’re a 40 year old lesbian nurse.
They might have learnt this a bit late…
Did you know that women can orgasm without the G spot being stimulated?
Men too
But it’s a lot of fun to make men cum from their P spot hehe
Love it when my wife makes me cum from p-spot stim, god damn!
After I was raped by my then fiance did I turn lesbian.
They were jokingly referencing the “Today” part of the sub. I’m sorry that happened to you.
Lol @ the lil pubes in the illustration
you can use cm if your mm values are exclusively multiples of 10 anyway
Yet, nobody can seem to find it (curious) /s
Curious is a word associated to Charlie Kirk forever for me.
He couldn’t find the g spot either.
Fact check: TRUE ✅
How far is that in AU
3.342294e-13 to 5.34767e-13 AU.
Oh I should have been precise. Not astronaut units, American units. Apologies.
Stick your middle or pointer finger in with your hand supenated, curl it to the wall, and feel around with the pad of your finger until she gets loud
half a hot dog
Standard or bun-length?
Depends on her bun size
astronaut units
The existence of the G-spot as a distinct structure has not been proven, nor has the source of female ejaculation.[4][5] Although it has been studied since the 1940s,[2] disagreement persists over its definition and location.[4][6][7] The G-spot may be an extension of the clitoris, which may be the actual cause of vaginal orgasms.[7][8][9] Sexologists and other researchers are concerned that women may consider themselves to be dysfunctional if they do not experience G-spot stimulation, and emphasize that not experiencing it is normal.[5]
The lack of study of women’s anatomy is abysmal.
The clitoris wasn’t fully anatomically described until 2005.
https://open.substack.com/pub/saraszalmd/p/the-female-body-was-not-designed
Heterosexual men report orgasm during partnered sex 95 percent of the time. Heterosexual women: 65 percent. Lesbian women: 86 percent, a rate comparable to heterosexual men. A 2024 scoping review of the full body of evidence concluded that the orgasm gap is largely driven by social dynamics rather than biological mechanisms.
A 2024 scoping review of the full body of evidence concluded that the orgasm gap is largely driven by social dynamics rather than biological mechanisms.
I’m shocked! Shocked, I tell you! /s
All the bi women I’ve been with must have been deeply invested in this research as they were telling me these findings years before publication
I feel seen hahaha
Unfortunately there surrounds a whole lot of stigma around studying the female sex of humans. We know more about how one of horses or cows function, because if someone is seeking funding to study the human female sex there is an immediate opinion you’re just a perv.
I read a few interviews about this quite a while ago, I’ll try to find them…
These days it’s considered DEI and just gets defunded.
So, basically, a lose-lose situation.
If I remember correctly Sexologist Dr. Lindsey Doe has a story from her time as a student where she was in a lecture where a dude was talking about there being no evidence of a G-Spot, and joking about squirting as a concept being a made up porn gag, and she’s sitting in the auditorium being like “but I experience G-Spot orgasms and squirt, like… often” 😅
Now, to be fair to the field at least a little bit, I understand why maybe she didn’t want to stand up and shout “I routinely hammer my G-Spot and squirt all over the place” in front of her peers, and even in a clinical environment I could imagine it’s not the most orgasm-conducive setting to have a bunch of electrodes and cameras and stuff setup and then to be like “okay, now please show us all what it’s like at home. Anytime. We’re all ready to watch”
“but I experience G-Spot orgasms and squirt, like… often”
What a braggart.
Before I met her, my wife went to an anatomy course in which the teacher apparently said women couldn’t have kinks (though I believe the word used was “philia”).
That tracks deeply with my understanding of the history of kinky women’s community and culture.
I wonder how many of these teachers telling others that women don’t like sex were just in denial about their own dead bedroom at home. “Oh honey, nono, it’s not you, it’s that women just aren’t interested in sex in general! Now go off and earn your paycheck, I need to give some special instructions to the pool boy. You know how particular I am about the state of our pool!”
This roughly matches my wife’s theories.
Oh clearly! It’s just simple science! Philia are stored in the balls. 😉
Sounds about right. Like confidently claiming that women getting wet isn’t a real thing …
My doctor wife said…
I always forget this fact because it’s so incredulous. Then I re-learn it every time. I’m not looking forward to Alzheimer’s
I carry this factoid with me out of pure rage and spite.
Despite all my rage I am still just a clit in a cage
We also use male dummies in most tests so try not to need your seat belt or ever need cpr if you are a woman
Yep and that’s still true to this day
I remember reading an article a few months ago that they finally made female crash test dummies.
hmm…
mmm-mmm-mmm-mmm
And God shuffled his feet.
The album name has been burned into my brain just like burn-in on an old LCD happens.
I mean, Ellen Reid joined in the late eighties/early nineties…
Do titties stop CPR working?
People can hesitate because… boobs. And that hesitation can be deadly.
It’s common enough that The Pitt even had this happen to a patient.
The Pitt? The TV show?
How do dummies with boobs help people concerned about touching unconscious women’s chests
I assume by helping normalize them into the mental model of “CPR patient” which overrides all other aspects of social propriety. “Don’t touch boobs without permission” is a big rule so plenty of people are going to have to manually override it in the decision making if you haven’t been desensitized to the fact that some CPR patients have them.
I also suspect that the awkwardness of what to do with them while doing chest compressions is helpful, especially ones big enough to move around as you do them.
I declined Heimlich practice because my training partner was a particularly large chested female. I was about 23 and her crew leader. She was prob 22.
Nope!
Well, here’s another fun little fact for you to carry around then (that I learned recently and gained mild rage for):
Factoid
Invented claim or trivial fact
A factoid was originally defined to mean a false statement presented as a fact. In colloquial speech, it is often used to mean a true but brief or trivial item of news or information.
- Wikipedia
I think this falls under “a true but brief item of information”
Lmfao is the clitoris thing real? MFS really first found the clit 20 years ago
And we still cant find it…
Skill issue
That’s because 99% of it is inside the body, surrounding the vaginal area. I’m surprised at the wiki stating it “might” be the source of vaginal orgasms. It’s a huge mass of nerves around the area… yeah, it might be what’s doing it.
Speak for yourself ;)
Why did I just open lemmy to this dude posting like 30 post about vaginas and penis
better than the usuaal screenshot of another social network
If this was Reddit I’d say he was karma farming. Not sure what the motivation here would be, but it’s suspicious.
I don’t know, but it’s better than most of the doom and gloom news, clickbait and borderline advertisements normally in my feed, so I’ll take it!
Don’t be so sure, this is clearly astroturf marketing for penises and vaginas.
I am in the market for a new vagina.
I don’t mind used.
and happy cake day!
Happy hunting 🥰 !
Please multiply to add bodies to the grinder
Or have oral and digital sex. Or use protection. Make love not war
People often complain about how “we lost the old internet”, but this is the good stuff right here, g-spot and all.
Donnie D’s a wild one!
I always welcome interesting and educational info on genitals in my Lemmy feed :)
Speaking of that, there’s a fact or factoid that just came to me, and it’s that (IIRC) we all started out as girls in the womb in terms of genitals, only later in the case of males shifting towards the usual arrangement before eventually being born.
So I have this dumb idea when some he-man type is being overly sexist of reminding him that he used to be a girl. :D Then back it up with facts & science as necessary.
Probably a good way to get punched in the face, or something like that. 😅
We do all start out as girls in the womb!
The other sex factoid that pisses off dumb men is that its the sperm that determines if the fetus will be male or female at birth.
We have two sons. My wife has grown more dicks than me.
She’s certainly had at least two more dicks inside of her than you have.
[X] Doubt
Ah yes, and then you have Henry VIII and other power-figures wrongly blaming their wives for not producing a suitable heir.
Reading the book Sapiens has helped open my eyes about a certain amount of this patriarchal bullshit…
Girth > Length
I’m 1 inch long and 12 inches wide. Women call me “the plate”.
Fitting username
Well if MeatPilot says so it must be true.
Hung like a tuna can.
Long and thin is better for anal
Your penis is a really weird shape
That is true. For all entities where Girth is not <= Length.
so basically i have no chance
You got no fingers? Or maybe use a toy? You can get there if you try.
Don’t you know men are only allowed to use their penis during sex otherwise their man card gets revoked /s
It used to be on the front wall, but we’ve redecorated.
Uhhh yeah, that’s why you hook your fingers.
“Why are you putting measurement markings on that dildo?”
“Uh… don’t worry about it.”
I came for the comments
hope you enjoyed it!
Surely they enjoyed it a lot if they came!
I’m flattered
FYI: It feels like a raspberry.
