I know I am late to this discussion but I also have given up on Lemmy. Instead of decentralised company we got little fiefdoms with local land lords acting often worse than the worst Reddit moderators.
Where Reddit is suffocating in overruling even simple subreddits - on Lemmy we saw a land rush where often people squatted groups with topics they openly oppose and only use to harass everyone who disagrees with their opinion. Seriously, I have seem Lemmy-Groups about Muslims run by Muslim-Haters, Groups about Judaism run by Jew-Haters and so on.
Oh, I still thing Reddit is a rotten place but it has its nieche corners where it shines. Lemmy? I have only found one single Group I am actually interested in and where the moderators are acting reasonable. Honestly, Lemmy could be nice if there wasn’t such an ungodly amount of haters in power positions and people would be more chill about differences and mistakes.
So now you need to explain exactly what gets you worked up so hard because I can’t follow you and just consider it your personal mental episode.