Who I bought the house from told me to look after one specific plant that she said she would’ve taken with her if she could’ve. It got crushed by the weight of snow the next winter and there was nothing but a stick left.

I like seeing how my “meadow” keeps getting more and more diverse each year since I stopped mowing that part of the yard. In the fall I mulch it all with the mower and then let it grow freely again the next year. Last year I bought a bag of hundreds of flower bulbs and just dug them in randomly all over.

I think some people take their yards a bit too seriously. For me it’s my playground. I just throw stuff at it and see what sticks.

No, the trees will definitely get burned if my house catches on fire.

A lot of “smart” has been traded for fun and convenient here.

I live next to this old granny who does nothing but tidying up her yard all day every day and it’s flawless. I bet she secretly does some stealth weeding on my side as well.

I did some work at construction sites and worked at a place that imports plants and flowers. Just few weeks during the summer.

Yeah, this platform is a based on a subreddit as well. Not a place anyone stumbles upon by accident.

They must’ve bought it here on a trailer as it’s quite narrow street and no airport anywhere near.

I’m tempted to conclude that actually paying for the service is the key factor here, but I’m not sure. It’s a highly self-selected userbase after all - people who joined the platform specifically to have these kinds of tough conversations.

Perhaps it could work on a free platform as well. I guess the major difference is that getting banned comes with a real monetary cost and you can’t just create a new account in two minutes and go back to being obnoxious.

It also incentivizes the admin team to keep the place in a state where people are willing to keep paying. In this case it’s the userbase they need to please - not the advertisers.

Andrew Camarata and Foresty Forest are the first two that come to mind.

I joined a subscription-based social media platform recently that’s focused on intellectually honest and good faith discussion about pretty much anything. I never thought a bunch of strangers could act that civilly toward each other online. The contrast to other platforms like Lemmy cannot be overstated. No outrage, no grandstanding, no smug and dismissive responses, and no insults whatsoever. There’s plenty of disagreement there, but it’s all handled the way you’d expect adults to behave.

Don’t know whether it’ll stay that way, but I’ll enjoy it while it lasts.

My old army canteen has worked just fine. At the gym I use an old plastic orange juice bottle. Makes literally no difference to me for as long as it holds water.

I don’t believe in free will either but that doesn’t imply that I think decisions aren’t being made. You’re simply just not authoring those decisions - at least not the way you think.

We do things for two reasons: either you have to or you want to. There’s no freedom in neither one.

I count that as gatekeeping. It’s the reason my contribution to that community has degreased over 90%. If it was just “men’s club” then I’d have a ton of stuff to post there but nowdays I just consider it all too interesting to post there but not interesting enough to post anywhere else so I just don’t post it anywhere then.

The audacity of some people… I simply cannot comprehend it. I’d feel so ashamed of myself.

And I don’t mean expressing distaste for something when it’s relevant to the discussion.

I don’t personally find that post complainy in the way I was talking about. It’s frustrating and kind of funny. I don’t sense any negative vibe there at all.

The kind of complaining I’m talking about is the exhausting kind to be around. Even there I express my frustration but also say I have a solution for the problem.

Pointing out everything wrong with the world without offering anything even remotely like a sustainable, realistic alternative is incredibly unproductive

Ofcourse I too complain sometimes. I just try not to but I’m not perfect.

It’s the people who took action that brought us here - not the ones who just complained.

“How can we make things better?” Is not complaining. “Everything sucks and it’s everyone else’s fault but mine” is.

These people also don’t seem to know their history very well when they’re using the French Revolution as an example.

Once the common enemy was defeated the revolutionaries realized that they no longer have the thing that united them so they turned on eachother next. Just like the US and USSR turned on eachother once the Nazies were defeated.

You’ll be hard-pressed to catch me complaining about anything. I don’t like hearing others do it, so I don’t take part either.

And I don’t mean expressing distaste for something when it’s relevant to the discussion. I mean the kind of unprompted whining we’re all exposed to here on a daily basis. I’m too aware of the social game being played there, and even the thought of joining in makes me cringe. Pointing out everything wrong with the world without offering anything even remotely like a sustainable, realistic alternative is incredibly unproductive - it’s mostly just tribal signaling.

How dare they answer the question OP presented. What a hypocrite!

I’m obviously being facetious.