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Cake day: June 29th, 2025

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  • You know that phenomena where you buy a yellow car, and then you suddenly see yellow cars everywhere?

    Brains are really suggestible.

    You don’t need to be ashamed, if your brain has gotten into a habit you don’t appreciate, or is negatively affecting your life, it’s something you can work on.

    Gals are pretty, I’m not attracted to them, myself, but I absolutely get it.

    What you want is to feel like you’re in control of enjoying looking, and not that it’s a compulsion, like it’s driving you. That’s gotta be almost taking all the pleasure out of it for you. I could imagine that would be hugely annoying.

    Just start by noticing other things, go out specifically to see something, birds, trees, bugs, water, boats, whatever you find interesting, and start retraining your brain towards something else, if you try “not” to look at something, it’s still the main focus, if you try not to look at girls, the focus is still girls, it’s easier to help your brain notice other things. Count how many of something you see. Just let your brain notice girls as you go, notice what it’s telling you and then move back to what you were looking at redirecting towards.

    You don’t have to do what your brain tells you to do, you aren’t your “thinking brain”, you are the entity that observes your thoughts, you might be inadvertently feeding those thoughts into a bigger thing than you want them to be, by actioning on them. I would suggest, try not walking or actioning them. That feeds that wolf, which is perfectly normal and fine, but hes just gotten a little too much for the space you want him to occupy.

    This is all ok, its a perfectly normal, developmental stage. It will calm down on its own, too, don’t stress.




  • It’s definitely the food. And it’s both. The two studied preservatives, when in manufactured form, and ultra processed foods, are both known to be harmful. Their take away suggestion is to limit ultra processed foods, because they all can contain these preservatives. They say that because overall that will have the most benefit, mostly because they can only account 35% of the known preservatives in our foods, yet. So theres still 75% we are consuming, in our foods, that they aren’t yet able to find. Just of these two mentioned preservatives. It’s a long term exposure, kinda thing, it’s not going to kill you if you eat it once, and eating it here and there isn’t as long term damaging, as if it made up the bulk of your diet. If it’s predominantly most of what you eat, the accumulating harm, builds up.

    The way it causes obesity and diabetes, I wonder if it’s effecting the insulin reception system, on a cellular level. That essentially the body reads it as sugar and it overloads the system.





  • It’s actually a bit complicated and complex, entirely worth reading the whole article. Here’s a couple of exerpts While antioxidants such as citric and ascorbic acid are found naturally in foods such as fruits, they are “not exactly natural” when used as preservatives, senior author Mathilde Touvier

    “Naturally occurring ascorbic acid and added ascorbic acid — which may be chemically manufactured — may have different impacts on health,” said Touvier, who is also director of research at France’s National Institute of Health and Medical Research in Paris.

    “Thus, the results observed here for these food additives are not true for natural substances found in fruits and vegetables,” she added.

    “There is no food group/item to remove from the diet in order to fix things,” Hasenböhler said in an email. “These results also support the recommendations for consumers to favour non-to-minimally-processed foods.”

    Ultraprocessed foods have been linked to an approximately 50% higher risk of cardiovascular disease-related death, and they may boost the risk of obesity by 55%, sleep disorders by 41% and the development of type 2 diabetes by 40%. Obesity, diabetes and poor sleep are closely connected to poor heart health.

    The studies appear linked, too



  • Oh, I’m right there with you, my friend. Emotional immaturity can and does absolutely make personal growth relfection or change, almost impossible. And a hugely toxic and damaging childhood, for any kids involved.

    I’m old now, and I’m going to therapy to try and fix some of the deep deep damage, still there. It’s had a hand in messing up everything in my life, it’s frustrating! The most frustrating thing is, it’s built into the foundations, so you don’t see it till it pops up in terrible ways. It’s like playing whack a mole with a soul infecting virus. I’m focusing really hard on breaking generational traumas being passed down, because they’re like that because their needs weren’t met, also. My biggest fear is becoming them.