It’s really hard to underestimate you.

Minigolf but everyone goes at the same time, taking turns hitting your own ball like in pool. Hitting other people’s balls is allowed but you always try to aim for the hole. Also, have ice cream while at it.

An occupation and a class are not the same.

I was born in the southern hemisphere and have lived in different countries in Europe for many many years. I speak 4 languages and remember a bit of what I learned of native (precolonial culture) from the country I was born in. Although I was born in a different country, my family is Italian on one side and Palestinian on the other. I feel from nowhere.

My take, people crave identity through whatever can give them a sense of legitimacy and belonging. Vikings are just 300 years of romanticised history, but there is certainly rich culture in it. If you find beauty in the themes and traditions of germanic scandinavia or the sápmi then great! I feel attached for no reason to some cultures and traditions because they “make sense” to me in my view of the world and my values. We do not need certificates for that.

I’m surprised by the amount of unfounded and uninformed opinions, whether for or against, that have a lot of upvotes. Then there are people who have been homeschooled, homeschool their kids, or work with homeschooled kids and commented to share information. Those have far less upvotes. Wtf. Listen to other people’s experiences.

Not to be against distinctions and clearly this administration is insane. But I agree with the rest that it is not a one time thing. The imperialism has been there for decades. Chile 73 just to give one.

What happened, from what you wrote, seems clear to me. He sabotaged the relationship with you through his own insecurities and lack of self esteem. The effort to nurture a relationship —I believe— should come naturally. This person sounds like he really needs help and he wanted you there to support him. But he is not your responsibility. He pushed you away by making every interaction an emotional drain, making it even harder to want to spend time with him.

What others have said about friendships needing to be put effort into is true, they do. But you can only give as much as you have energy for, and he should not guilt trip you about it. Sounds like he made his fears of abandonment real by unintentionally pushing you away. We have with my wife a term for people that drains energy instead of recharging you when you meet them. It’s emotional vampirism. I hope he finds people in his life who can help him stand. That “friendship” sounded more like a job.

Also, what a particular way of writing you had, putting everything in lists haha. But it felt ok to read and was well summarised.