I got my tubes tied. (It was a LONG hunt before I found a doc that would do it.) I’m fortunate periods don’t bother me a whole lot, so the risk of vaginal prolapse doesn’t seem worth it at this time. But I may in the future.

They do not typically give local anesthesia for implants (at least IUD) in the US. I hear it is common outside of the US.

I did the whole thing white knuckled. Both insertion and extraction.

Mine was trying to expel itself and it was so painful I was apparently “ashy colored” according to colleagues and sweating due to aforementioned pain. The cramping was about as bad as labor pain.

The string was wrapped around the device and wasn’t accessible from outside of the cervix, so the doctor had to dig it out with forceps (?)

At least after it was out, certain symptoms I had for years disappeared… So yay for that!

It turns out that level of pain is not normal. Oops.

My friends told me I should try the arm implant. After the rotten luck I’ve had with hormonal birth control, no thanks!

“Oh no. I did his bidding. He was supposed to hurt other people, but not me. Now I hate that guy. Feel sorry for me.”

I’m not sure where the 4.15kg of cocaine is.

At first, very hard.

I left an abusive relationship. I was afraid for my life. He made it clear that I should have been scared though, after some incidents incited by him.

He financially abused me and I had nearly nothing to my name. I took care of our daughter myself. He fought for custody of her. I fought back, and got sole custody.

I would get “anonymous” CPS reports filed against me. It was always nerve-wracking, but nothing was ever substantiated.

He still continues to try to get access to my medical records, to find something to use against me. It has been a decade now.

He still finds ways to mess with me via supervised visitation. (They allow him to break the rules.) I have to brush it off and endure it. Nothing more can be done. I was hoping he would lose interest but he has not.

He had to go to a batterer’s intervention class. Based on the court reports, he has not accepted any responsibility for what he has done. He has, however, gotten new vocabulary to weaponize against me and claims that I was abusive. (The incidents in question include me telling him to stop spending money on himself so I could pay rent. Apparently that is “financial abuse” and I “had all the power in the relationship because I made all the money” when he refused to work, but was able to.)

He is tens of thousands of dollars behind on child support. Every time I try to get court to enforce it, he brings me back to court. It costs me a lot of money so it is cheaper to not even try. (He affords it by having his dad pay for it. He doesn’t even pay for the lawyer himself. I, however, pay for my own lawyer.) Every time we tried to garnish his wages, he would quit his job.

I have to be very careful with how I live my life because he tried to find me doing anything out of line to take me back to court. If I lose and he gets unsupervised access, he will harm our child. I am afraid of what will happen when I no longer have a restraining order to protect me, but at least I am an adult that can protect myself. (The restraining order has already helped me a few times…)

It is exhausting.

However, life is so much better now. I worked hard and it paid off. I don’t have a leech spending all of our money on video games while I bring in all the money, do a lot of the household duties, and take care of a minor child. I don’t have to worry about my bank account having much less money and not being able to pay bills, because my partner saw something they wanted. I don’t have to fear my own safety in my home. I don’t have to shove all of my feelings down or else be belittled. I don’t have to be held back and sabotaged, because me achieving something hurts my partner’s feelings. I can have friends again without him inserting himself into the friendship or cutting them off from me.

It is much better.