1. My now wife and I had a shared checking account before we were engaged. We lived together and had shared bills, so we would both just put what we could into the shared account and pay the rent and utilities from there.

2. My wife’s ring is moissanite and cost like $900 at the time, she still pretty consistently gets compliments on it. I spent what I “saved” by avoiding a diamond on a down payment on a house back when that wasn’t 100k.

3. I didn’t have a savings account until my wife and I fully combined our finances. My checking was my savings. I’m not a big spender so it was never a problem.

4. I got nothing here.

Knocking some items off my never ending list of home projects.

I made some decent progress this weekend, knocked off a bunch of electric work, but I also added quiet a few things to the list.

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I had this same disorder. I cured it temporarily by giving them away to everyone I know. Christmas, birthdays, Thanksgiving, everyone’s getting a computer, doesn’t matter if you already have one.

They’re starting to pile up again though and now I don’t know what to do because all my friends and family won’t talk to me because I keep giving them computers.

I got 3 months paid paternity leave through a state program. A coworker who had a kid that same month chose to not use the state program and take 2 PTO days instead. I talked to him before hand and told him about the program but he said something like “I wouldn’t be much help, she’s done it twice already so she has it handled”. It was very evident how his wife felt about him at the Christmas party that year.

She sought out my wife, who she knew had a kid recently too and my wife brought up how nice it was to have me home for those first few months and somehow the state program came up in the conversation. She then booked it over to me and asked me about it, not knowing what was going on or thinking much about it, I told her about it and that I can’t believe coworker didn’t do it. Then all hell broke loose. This tiny little lady dragged out my 6 foot heavy set coworker by the ear, calling him every name in the book. She made him use all his PTO days and went to spend new years somewhere warm. He bitched about how hard it was taking care of 3 kids on his own for weeks.

‘Funny’ enough all the guys in the office thought she was being ridiculous but all the women were praising her.

Strangely enough I experience this every night. Just this morning I had a had a pretty eye opening revelation. I wake up every night around 4-5. I assume from nightmares, I always remember waking up terrified but never remember the dreams. I dilly dally for a few minutes, get out of bed to get some water or something then go back to sleep. On my second round of sleeping I have horrendous nightmares and at a certain point I realize I’m dreaming but can’t wake myself up. I remember every gory detail and by the time I do actually wake up it has me questioning if I’m still dreaming or not. It makes mornings awful.

This has been happening for years and I just today realized the worst part is always on my second round of sleep. I’m gonna start trying to just wake up around that 4-5 time and then take a nap during the day if I need too.

Usually 4-5 days a week for a couple hours on weekdays, 6+ hours on weekends. A little less in the winter months when we focus on indoor stuff, there’s only so much. My kids out there with me almost everyday and loves it. I don’t think he’d let me skip to many days even if I wanted to.

We’ll spend the rest of the afternoon getting all the posts up, letting them dry all day tomorrow, then work on framing it out next week, probably wrapping it up next Sunday. After that we’re building a greenhouse/photos studio for my wife. I like using hand tools which slows things down a lot.

I’m not 30 yet but I’m pretty dang close and most of my friends are either right there with me or pushing 40 at this point. I hear pretty often about how lucky I am that I can eat however I want and don’t have to work out and I’m still in great shape. I have a pretty obvious secret though. I mostly only eat healthy stuff that I cook at home, so when I go out I can eat the greasiest cheesesteak you can find it and not feel bad about it, and I do all my own home repairs and renovations. I don’t go to the gym, but this morning I hauled 20 6x6x12 beams and about 40 bags of 80 cement to the back field by myself in the blistering sun to build a play structure for my kid. If I don’t have anything to build I have a pallet of cinder blocks that don’t current have a purpose that I just move around a big field back and forth to keep my hands calloused.

I’m pretty salty about it because I just started with a new doctor, and when asked if I work out I told him such, and he said that doesn’t count and I should start going to the gym a few times a week to help my heart health. I think he was sponsored by planet fitness because he kept talking about it.

Oh we do, we have a little bit of woods, but right next to us there’s about a 20 acre thick woods that’s owned by one of our neighbors and basically treated as communal. A couple of the neighbors help out to maintain a trail that they made running next to a small stream. We just found out the whole woods is filled with various flowers in the spring/summer. Right now all the daffodils are absolutely covering everything but the trail so the owners posted on Facebook inviting anyone to come walk the trail and pick as many as they want. It was really cool to see so many people from the community come to this private land that’s treated as public, maintained for free by the neighbors just for the sake of having something nice, to pick flowers for free without any expectation of anything in return. Talk about icing in the cake, we had no clue about any of this before we moved in. I assumed it was a grumpy old guy who like living in the woods so people wouldn’t bother him, instead it’s a young couple with a baby who invite strangers in for tea.

I tried fixing up cars a couple years back but it turns out that’s just not my jam. I was a framing carpenter for a few years so my expertise outside of wood and nails is pretty limited. But with the price of things nowadays I’m getting not too shabby with plumbing and electrical. Replaced a couple pipes when we first moved in and I’m working on slowly swapping out some old knob and tube with romex, although it takes me forever because I’ll check everything 20, times and redo it if it’s not absolutely perfect, electrical stuff makes me nervous.

I’m actually on my first year of sort of doing this. I wouldn’t say I made bank, but I make enough that I could buy a house with an acre and an adjacent partially wooded lot with another acre that I’ll hopefully be able to split between crops and some livestock in the next few years. For now I’m starting small with 1/8th of an acre and just growing the same stuff we always grew in the garden but on a bigger scale plus a few rows of corn and a patch of sunflowers.

My company doesn’t care when I do my work so I can spend half the day in the field no problem and clock a couple hours at night, as long as I get something done no one bothers me.

It’s been extra cool because the house is an original farmhouse from the early 1900s with an original barn, water lines and even power running out there too so being able to fix everything up myself and bring the land back to it’s original glory has really brought something much needed back into my soul.

I will say thought it is fucking expensive even after buying the land.

The long shadows going into my backyard had me memorized

I have a couple raspberry pis running android TV with konstas lineage os build. I don’t really have any complaints. My TVs never connect to the internet, I run jellyfin, stremio and kodi even runs pretty well on it when I want to watch something live.

My biggest qualm is I couldn’t get any of the android TV remote apps to work so I just built my own and set adb over network to default to on.

I use AI to look at my git diffs before I push them up. I use a local LLM and specifically instruct it to look for typos, left over debug prints, or stupid logic.

It’s caught quite a few stupid things that I’m apparently blind to and my coworker appreciates it.

That’s not to say I’d sit back and let it write whole features, pushing it right to master after a short skim… Like someone else I know has started doing. But it can absolutely have a useful purpose.

When I was first learning how to code I was working on some beginner project and couldn’t figure it out. I asked a friend who knew a few things what I was doing wrong and he hopped on my computer, fixed the code then opened it in vim and told me my project wasn’t working because of whatever text editor I was using (I think sublime). So for like a year I hardly learned how to code but I got pretty dang good with vim.

Holy shit I’ve never heard of this but that’s awesome. I would love to see that nowadays

Meanwhile my 1 year old has a pretty routine surgery scheduled for next month that will cost me close to $30k after insurance.

Well fucking yeah. Leave it be.