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Cake day: August 13th, 2024

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  • I was in a very similar position that you’re in. I lost a lot of who I thought were close friends during that time, but to be honest I’m glad I parted ways with them as I feel I outgrew them politically / consciously.

    My partner also had to deal with my bullshit on a regular basis, I’d read the news or see a beheaded child on my feed, and it would make me spiral for the rest of the day, picking fights, shouting, I will say that was probably the lowest point in my life.

    I always felt I had to witness the atrocities, like I had to carry the weight of the martyrs, me being a witness meant their lives weren’t just a statistic.

    After a year and a half of that I realized how broken I became, I was mad at everyone and everything all the time. My wonderful partner didn’t have to stay with me yet she did, which I’ll always be grateful for.

    The best thing I did for myself was deleting social media / extremely limiting what I consumed. I still have these episodes, but I have gotten to the point I can realize what I am doing before I act on what I’m thinking.




  • Think it depends on what they consider “low skill”.

    A lot of people consider ANY manual labor / customer-facing jobs as low-skill.

    Electrician apprenticeships are extremely limited in my area, and the waitlists are >3 years to get in, but they pay pretty well once you become one.

    I have a barista friend who works late nights / weekends, she gets pretty good money but she ROTS on days off because her sleep schedule is so messed up, she’s also technically part-time so no benefits.







  • I hear you friend. I also have problems with religious guilt, but I’m Muslim. There’s also the guilt in general, with literally everything.

    I rarely spend money on myself, it’s gotten worse over the past 2 1/2 years, how can I spend money on myself when everyone is going through so much worse than what I have to experience?

    I haven’t even bought new underwear in years at this point lol, the elastic bands on most of my pairs are completely shot and I have to tie them onto my waist with a rubber band, I never go out to eat with my partner anymore, which I know is probably straining the relationship because we don’t do much anymore.

    Her mother took us out to a high-end restaurant the other week, tapas style, ~$30/plate and the waiter said “people normally order about 3-4 plates per person”. I felt so much guilt, I ended up getting a falafel plate that ended up amounting to $8 per piece of falafel. I know her mother was getting annoyed with me, and I was probably ruining her night by not letting go and enjoying things, but how can I enjoy these things when we drove by someone living in a tent a block away from the restaurant?

    And I saw this video earlier today that just crushed me, no class solidarity, the ones making minimum wage at slop stores are still spitting on people who are less fortunate than them.

    And don’t feel guilty about the vouchers / aid requests, if anything just try to pay it forward once you’re in a stable position, but don’t force yourself to if you need the money.