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Cake day: June 11th, 2026

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  • years ago i heard some advice. “if someone walks past while you’re working and says ‘good job!’ then sure, it’s nice, but you’ve forgotten by the time they’ve turned the corner. whereas if someone insults you, if they say your nose looks like a fishing hook with a rotten worm dangling on the end, you can remember that for the rest of your life. it’s not because we only remember bad things, it’s because one is specific, the other general. when you give a compliment, try and be as specific as possible.” i still remember my child hood best friend’s response to ‘why do you hang out with me?’ “because you’re the sort of person who, if i ask you to come and shoot a knockoff version of the hobbit with me in the local woods wearing a dressing gown, i know the answer is gonna be yes, no matter how silly the idea.”