Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.
My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.
Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady’s dad for permission?
If you aren’t sure of the ring, you may want to ask tbh. Some people want an expensive ring, others like my wife wanted to go shop with me for it after the proposal. I gave her an etsy amulet of Mara for the proposal then we did a modest ring later.
As for her dad, do it, but not to ask for permission, more to officially inform him and her mother. That’s an important distinction. I did this, my feminist wife respected it quite a bit, and her dad felt honored and respected.
Great answer.
I second that OP should ask about ring preference before buying anything. I did before I proposed, and was surprised to learn that she had very specific desires for her engagement ring.