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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Honestly? Yeah, go for it.

    It really doesn’t matter why or what criteria someone uses to select a donor, you’re doing something nice. For a couple that can’t conceive because of sperm issues (whatever those issues might be), having a variety of anonymous donors to pick from empowers them in a way that is really unique.

    Think about the whole of human history where infertility was insurmountable without an outsider being directly involved in an intimate way. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it isn’t for everyone. Medical assistance gives freedom and independence of choice way beyond what used to be possible.

    So, yeah, if you don’t have some major genetic problems, donate.



  • If you’re broke, pretty much all of the usual external aids are out unless you already have them

    Valerian nd kava have pretty potent anti anxiety effects. Pretty much the most potent ones, and the most reliable plant based stuff since even with the usual variances, you won’t have zero effect, nor too heavy.

    So that kinda leaves you with non chemical options (just because they’re plant based don’t mean they ain’t drugs, ya dig).

    Breathing exercises are the front line defense, even if you aren’t in practice, so you start there. Doesn’t even matter what kind, because there’s a chain of control. Control your breathing, control your heart rate and brain patterns. Control those, you control the stress chemicals being released, and that’s where the panic attack part really lives

    It isn’t instant, but it works.

    The problem is starting them. What I found helped a good bit when I could, was the opposite. Start out doing anything that spikes respiration and pulse. Sit ups, pushups, jumping jacks, whatever you can tolerate physically. Just crank out enough to spike your breathing and pulse a little. It serves multiple purposes, but the key to it is breaking the cycle of the attack. Usually, once you get that spike, you’ll be able to engage breath control easier than if you try starting that first.

    Beyond that, you gotta find things to ground yourself in the real world instead of your head. Again the what doesn’t matter much, but I tend to find practical, hands on stuff works well enough. Like, sharpening knives grounds me (it’s my thing, what can I say). If there’s something that normally centers you and lets you kinda hit flow state, that’s the thing to try.

    Shit, even something that’s mostly bad for anxiety can work if the ritual of it is calming enough. Like the process of making tea can help despite the caffeine sucking for anxiety.

    None of it is easy without a breakthrough option though, and I’m not going to blow smoke up your ass and pretend otherwise. So if you do already have valerian, or an antihistamine, lead with that, but follow up with breathing exercises anyway!

    You gotta use a multifaceted approach.




  • The question in the title is essentially unanswerable. It’s not even possible to point to where an awareness of attraction as opposed to just existing started, or if there even was a starting point.

    That being said, chances are that it began at the same point as humans became self aware. Most mammals and plenty of other critters put some degree or another of energy into maximizing their presentation, even if only during mating season.

    At some point, any creature that becomes self aware is also going to start seeing the benefits of caring about that.

    I suspect you’d be looking at somewhere before homo sapiens, but after whatever “missing link”. Not that I’m confident in the whole idea of a missing link, but that’s tangential. What isn’t tangential is that a lot of the early human-ish critters exhibited signs of self awareness to some degree, so I can’t imagine that sapiens were the first to have it. I seem to recall there being primitive equivalents to combs and such as far back as like ,habilis? Don’t bet money on my memory though











  • A twelve inch sub, two bags of chips, a bottle of soda for each, and some Reese’s cups.

    I did the entire load except the Reeses.

    This was back when FUBU was still a viable company. I could fit a full sized handgun in each pocket, so two drink bottles in one and a sandwich in the other were easy. Chips in the back pockets. With pants that loose, and a baggy shirt over the top, it wasn’t even visible lol. Good belt helped though.

    With a good coat in winter, I could smuggle anything I damn well wanted almost anywhere. Hell, anywhere at all that didn’t search people, no almost.

    Edit: me and my homie went together, it wasn’t all for me


  • I rarely complain about voting, but it annoys the fuck out of me that this question is in the negative. It’s actually a damn good question, if poorly phrased.

    But it’s true. Inbreeding takes generations to cause significant troubles if there’s no really nasty genetic diseases present already.

    Even siblings aren’t going to crank out two headed monsters if they’re the first in the family to keep it in the family. And, once you’re past first cousins, the risks get even lower. Not non existent, just not anything to worry about in the first generation. Again, that’s unless there’s a known issue.



  • Yeah, they tend to have less connection because of all the process of going from hatchery to store, and the lack of interaction before they get bought. They’d be fine layers, but less fine friends.

    And breed factors in too. The ones usually out for sale in a store will be bred for laying or meat, and that means no attention to more than bare docility. Some breeds though, they’re known for being friendly rather than just calm. We have a marans that prefers human company to other birds most of the time. Since she was also hand raised before we got her, I’m not too surprised she tends to amaze people with how friendly and loving she is.

    I think if you get more, find a local breeder and you’ll have way better luck


  • Popular? For a given value of popular, absolutely.

    You’re a high volume poster with a very distinct writing voice. Doesn’t take long to start recognizing the pattern, which will inevitably mean the user name is recognizable as well.

    Me? I tend to really enjoy your nostupidquestions posts, even when I have no idea what in the fuck you’re asking. See, a community like this needs members that will essentially post whatever the fuck is on their mind with little or no filter. On reddit, there were subs where one or two folks like that made them worth dividing visiting because it opens the gate.

    Even when you ask something that’s off the wall and barely intelligible, it spurs reaction, thought. Even when that thought/reaction is negative, it makes people think about what they wish would be posted.

    And, on top of the gate opening, people that ask whatever the hell is in their head tend to ask things nobody else would. You have no idea how many times you’ve asked some off the wall shit that made me really think because I would have never approached the subject in that way. There was a guy on reddit in one of the niche subs that was the same way, and I always took extra time to consider his asks because it often led to me thinking something new, even if I couldn’t give a useful response.

    Though, being real, sometimes I have no clue what in the hell you’re getting at lol.