What’s your protocol regarding ‘expensive’ gifts (anything over $200). If the gift receiver no longer wants or needs it, does it go back to the giver, or can the receiver sell it or give it to someone else?

  • FunkyCheese@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 day ago

    No gifts given can ever be taken back.

    Give me a cheap painting, turns out to be worth 200K? Too bad

    Give me a lamp for 300 bucks that i didnt want? I will sell it and keep the money

    The giver has no right, claim or reason to place any demands. Giver shouldnt have given any gifts, ever, if thats how they feel.

    If giver gives me a scratch card (ive seen them where you add to and from, and put them on presents) same thing goes. The prize would be me.

    Thats fair. And inpersonally just never give expensive gifts… buy your own shit

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    When i give something, i give wholeheartedly. They can do whatever they want with it; keep it, sell it, throw it in the trash, give it away, or recycle it. Otherwise i would feel like i gave them something with some restrictions attached. I will also never check what they did with it. I gave them something because i wanted to give them something. It’s nice if they like it, but it’s not an obligation to appreciate it.

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    22 hours ago

    once given it belongs to the reciever. there are some exceptions like a engagement ring where the wedding is called off.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    Give back, rude

    Sell, gauche (with some exceptions for real estate and timed items like concert tickets)

    Give to someone else, depends:

    Is it a family heirloom? Must be given within the family.

    Was it handmade? Must be given to someone else with a connection to the maker.

    Is it something that if taken care of can last for generations? Must be given to someone who will be a good steward of it.

    For most other things, regifting is fine, including entering it into a mutual aid resource pool.


    One more note: If the gift is replaced by a nicer or updated gift from the same or related source (eg. your parents get you a new laptop, replacing one they gave you five years ago) then the older one is free for you to do as you like with.

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    If the receiver turns the gift down or no longer needs it (as in it was a wedding gift and the wedding got cancelled) the gift giver is free to do whatever they want with it.

    Keep it, regift it or take it back

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    1 day ago

    It’s kind of dodgy selling something that you were given, without prior arrangement. Obviously it’s legal but that’s not what you’re asking, I think.

    I recently gave someone a leftover, non-driveable car worth maybe $2K on the basis that he liked the car and he wanted to get it running and drive it. But to bypass potential awkwardness if the repair project didn’t work out, I explicitly told him that it was fine with me if he sold it and kept the money. That seemed like a good way to handle it.

    I’ve received a few smaller gift items from people online. I wouldn’t sell them but could see regifting them.